Meet the married couples who never have sèx but insist they're happy

When married couples live like brother and sister. No sèx for years and they insist they are happy. Are they deluded - or just honest? Read and tell us what you think...

Most evenings, with their little girl safely tucked up in bed, Charlotte and Chris Everiss (pictured right) enjoy a kiss and a cuddle on the sofa in front of the television.

Happily married for a decade, the couple cannot bear to even imagine their lives without one another. Yet, astonishingly, they haven’t made love for more than two years.

Both insist that their marriage, which followed a two-year courtship after meeting on a dating website, is stronger than most. It’s just that sèx, they say, is not important to their happiness.

  

‘We still turn each other on but we don’t want to take it any further,’ says Charlotte. ‘We don’t have the time or the energy.

‘I find it hard switching off knowing that our four-year-old, Addison, is in the next bedroom. I think if Chris really missed sèx he would tell me, or I’d catch him watching pòrn on the internet as a substitute. 

‘But he doesn’t seem to want to go back to having sèx, either.
‘We sound like Darby and Joan, I know - even though I’m only 34 and Chris is 40 - but that, to us, is contentment.'


Charlotte and Chris, it seems, aren’t the only ones whose sèx life has dwindled to nothing. A recent survey estimated that 15 to 20 per cent of couples have sexless relationships - defined by experts as making love fewer than ten times a year - while around 5 per cent go without altogether.

Actress Helen Mirren spoke for many of these couples earlier this year when she said: ‘I think the power of partnership in marriage is under-recognised in our society. That’s what makes marriages  work, not sèx.’


In a sèx-obsessed society, where everyone - young, old, male and female - seems to be boasting of how many times a week they ‘do it’, it may come as a relief to many that couples like Charlotte and Chris are happy to admit that sèx plays no part in their marriages at all.

Most couples who find themselves at a point where sèxual intimacy has died tend to confide their predicament to no one at all. But today three brave couples reveal to Femail how they have learned to live contented lives without sèx.

You don’t need a degree in psychology to work out why Charlotte, a social media consultant from Great Wyrley, Staffordshire - who in the early years of her marriage made love to her husband three times a week - may have problems surrounding sèx.

Three years ago, when their daughter was 18 months old, Charlotte almost died after an ectopic pregnancy resulted in her having a partial hysterectomy during a six-hour operation. Since then, she and Chris have made love only once, around ten months after her loss, an encounter from which she derived no pleasure.

Chris is understanding about her aversion to sèx. ‘It can be hard knowing that our cuddles will never lead to anything more intimate,’ he says. ‘Charlotte is a gorgeous woman and I’m still very attracted to her, but she nearly died and I count my blessings every day that she’s even still here.’

‘I have an hour-long commute at either end of my working day so, to be honest, most of the time I’m too tired for sèx anyway.’

Chris, a digital marketing manager, says he doesn’t discuss with friends the absence of sèx from his marriage, but believes it is more common than people admit.
‘I don’t know that we’re all that different from other couples, we’re just more open about it,’ he says.

In all other respects, the Everisses have an enviable lifestyle. They live in a beautiful, four-bedroom detached home, have a Mini Cooper convertible and a VW Golf parked on the driveway, and enjoy several foreign holidays a year.

Tracey Dowler, 42, (pictured above with husband) spent several months worrying that husband Julian, 55, didn’t want to make love to her because he was attracted to other women. But she has now accepted that the stress of his demanding job as director of a motor mechanical and haulage company is the reason they no longer have sèx.

And, while she admits there have been times when she has felt like walking out of their immaculate, three-bedroom semi-detached home in Rugby, Warwickshire, over the lack of intimacy, Tracey values other aspects of their marriage too highly.

‘We got married in 2007 after only knowing each other for six months, so it was pretty whirlwind,’ says Tracey, a wedding fair organiser. ‘When we were dating, we’d have sèx up to three times a night, which was wonderful, but after the wedding we only made love once or twice a week. We started going months between encounters and now we haven’t made love for well over a year.’

Tracey still feels very attracted to her husband, and he says the same of her. The couple are loving in other ways, holding hands when they go out together, kissing one another goodnight before going to sleep and saying “I love you” at the end of telephone conversations.

 

But Julian has 40 employees under him and says his job has become far more demanding in the years since their wedding. He gets up at 4am to start work at 5am, puts in a 12-hour day and, as he is on 24-hour call, his phone often rings several times during the night with drivers needing advice.
Weekends are no more relaxing as Julian also runs a photography business, which he is hoping will take off enough for him to concentrate on it full time.

They are both keen to have a family together. They’ve had IVF and plan to have another round of it in August.

‘We talk about rekindling our love life but never seem to get around to it,’ says Julian. ‘We had a weekend away at a country hotel a couple of weeks ago and I was so exhausted I spent most of the time asleep.’

Julian regards Tracey as his best friend and soulmate - a fact common, it seems, to many couples enduring sèxless marriages - and believes that once he retires they will be able to rekindle some semblance of romance.


Once a couple gets out of the habit of having sèx, however, this can be easier said than done. 
‘Couples who don’t make love start living like brother and sister or friends and get out of the habit of seeing one another in a sèxual way,’ says Relate counsellor Paula Hall. 

‘If both partners want to reintroduce sèx, we encourage them to do so slowly, learning how to be sensual with each other and gradually building up to intercourse.’

Culled from UK Daily Mail

I Have a Crush on My Best Friend’s Aunt...

I’ve fallen for my best friend’s aunt and she wants us run away together. I’m 19 and she’s in her 50s. It started when I went to a concert in London with my friend. His aunt lives in London and we stayed the night at her flat.

She’s single and has a great job. It was the first time I’d met her and I realised how beautiful she is. She has a better body than many 20-year-old girls. She’s funny, smart and séxy. I couldn’t take my eyes off her. I fell in love instantly.

We got chatting and I flirted with her for a while. It was getting very late and she said my friend and I couldn’t keep her up any longer, as she had to go to work the next day.

I got up in the middle of the night to get a drink of water. I turned round and she was standing there in amazing undies. We started kissing and spent two wonderful hours in her bed, having fantastic séx.

I went back to the other bedroom before my mate woke up. I didn’t say anything to him but she texted me next day, inviting me to go to her flat whenever I wanted. Of course I said yes.

I’ve been telling my family and mates I’ve been seeing an old school friend who moved away. It’s been going on for months and she says she wants me to go to live with her in London, where we’ll be well way from our families. I want this too but I don’t want to leave everyone behind and I don’t want to lose my mate.

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P.Diddy's Girlfriend Poses Séductively For Esquire Magazine

It’s a four-alarm fire inside the pages of Esquire magazine and singer Cassie is the accélerant, as she poses séductively for a photo spread.

The girl is hotter than lava, and she isn’t afraid to show off her fit figure. (Who wouldn’t when looking this fly?) She’s smokin’ and she knows it, and the array of images oozes confidence.

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She looks like she has légs for days.

Baba Suwe: Appeal Court Upturns N25m Damages Suit Against NDLEA

 

The Court of Appeal in Lagos has overturned the judgement of a Lagos High court and quashed the N25million damages awarded in favour of Nollywood actor and veteran comedian, Babatunde Olasunkanmi Omidina, a.k.a. Baba Suwe. against the National Drug Law Enforcement Agency, NDLEA.
However, his lawyer, Bamidele Aturu, has stated that he would appeal the ruling which was delivered by Justice Chima Nweze.

It would be recalled that Baba Suwe was arrested in October 2011, by the NDLEA at the Lagos Airport enroute Paris on suspicion of ingesting substances believed to be cocaine. The actor was held for 24 days without trial and upon his release, dragged the agency to court.
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See how JTF Seized Over 50 Bombs From Lebanese Members Of Boko Haram

Four foreign nationals, suspected to have hailed from Middle East, were arrested in Kano by the Joint Task Force in the Bompai area of Kano on Wednesday.

Owner of the complex, where the weapons were impounded, simply identified as a Lebanese national, was arrested by military personnel.

Security sources disclosed that items recovered from the extensive operation included 40 air-to-surface missiles, 50 cluster bombs, 200 rocket-propel launchers, eight AK-47 rifles and 200 military hand grenades.

The “weapons of war” were said to have been evacuated to the headquarters of the 3rd Motorised Brigade of the Nigerian Army, Kano, alongside the foreign nationals.

Preliminary investigation had begun while “three countries have been indicted and the military high command is working to ascertain the culpability.

Meanwhile, the JTF has arrested 50 terror suspects in Borno State with the aid of special dogs, says the Director of Defence Information, Brig.-Gen. Chris Olukolade.

Olukolade said in a statement on Wednesday that the terror suspects were arrested with the help of specially trained dogs while trying to infiltrate Maiduguri.

The Defence spokesman said 15 of those arrested were caught with arms concealed either their bodies or their properties.

Olukolade said: “The efforts of the specially trained dogs have so far led to the arrest of over 50 terrorists who were trying to infiltrate Maiduguri.”

Goat Goes Mad, Attacks People On The Street (SEE PHOTOS)

Floored: A woman is knocked to the ground by the rampaging goat

 A furious goat went on the rampage around a Brazilian town and attacked anyone who dared to cross its path.

The animal was videoed as it butted a motorcycle and its two riders and floored a woman carrying her shopping through the streets of Londrina, near Sao Paulo.

One man, who thought he could beat the goat at its own game, was also knocked to the ground.....More pics after the cut:

On the run: A man flees from the charging animal that terrorised the town of Londrina in Brazil

Fighting back: Another resident kicks the goat after it had knocked the woman to the ground

During the confrontation, the man kicks the goat in its side but he is quickly forced to flee as the angry goat chases him around a tree.

A video of the stampeding goat is fast becoming an internet sensation and has now been watched more than 2.2milion times on YouTube in just three days.

The sound of the goat's bell can be heard as it charges at passersby.

One woman carrying shopping bags initially laughs when the goat begins to follow her.

But things then turn as nasty, as it launches into her back and knocks her to the ground.

Not content with attacking pedestrians, the goat soon turns its attention to a pair of motorcycle riders...Continue to see more pics:

Attack: The woman does not know she is being followed until the goat butts her to the ground

Charge: The goat leaps at one man in the video that has been watched more than two million times

Crash: Even a motorcycle is targeted by the angry goat and pushes it and its two riders over

Friends: It is not clear why the goat was so angry and was seen with a smaller companion before the attack

As the bike gingerly edges past the animal, it takes aim and butts the vehicle over.The cameraman, who had been filming the drama, can be laughing throughout the video.

But he too is forced to run away when he becomes the target of the animal.

The video ends when the goat is finally overpowered and tied to a post.

It is then seen being dragged off by two men.

Reps approve 14 years imprisonment for same sex marriage

The House of Representatives yesterday Thursday May 29th approved 14 years imprisonment for persons who contracted same sex marriage in the country.

This was sequel to a clause-by-clause consideration of a Bill for an Act to prohibit marriage or union entered between persons of same sex, at the Committee of the Whole.

“Marriage or civil union entered between persons of same gender shall not be solemnised in any place of worship, either church or mosque or any place in Nigeria,” it said.


Introducing the bill, Rep. Albert Sam-Tsokwa ( PDP-Taraba) said that it sought to achieve a far reaching objective by outlawing same sex marriage and provide punishment for offenders.
It also set out a 10-year sentence for “any person who directly or indirectly makes public show of same-sex amorous relationships’’.

“Any persons or group of persons that administers, witnesses, screen and shields the solemnisation of same sex marriage in Nigeria on conviction, will be liable to 10 years imprisonment.’’

It would be recalled also that the British Prime Minister, David Cameron, had warned that his country would consider withholding aid from countries that did not recognise gay rights.

In Nov. 2011, the senate approved the bill that would make same-sex marriages punishable by up to 14 years for the couple and 10 for anyone abetting such unions.

The bill is expected to be sent to the Senate for concurrence.

Source: NAN

How Mourinho sealed a spectacular £40million four-year deal as Chelsea new boss

The Special One sealed a spectacular £40million four-year deal on Tuesday night.

A senior Blues source revealed: “It’s official — Jose is a Chelsea man again! Everyone is delighted he’s coming back — the club, the players and the fans

“We are already looking forward to next season — we are sure it’s going to be very exciting.”

The Sun exclusively told you on May 3 that Real Madrid chief Mourinho was heading back to the Bridge.

And we can now reveal Mourinho finally put pen to paper during a two-day trip to London this week.

His cover story was attending the Crystal Palace-Watford play-off final at Wembley on Monday and visiting friends in the capital.

But the real purpose of the visit was to seal an emotional return to his beloved Blues along with right-hand man Rui Faria.

Now it is expected he will be unveiled next week in a blaze of publicity by the Europa League champions.

That is after he has taken charge of Real’s final game at home to Osasuna on Saturday, which will bring to an end his controversial three-year reign at the Bernabeu.

There is just time for the 50-year-old father of two to squeeze in a holiday with his family before starting work in earnest in July.

Mourinho’s first match looks sure to be the pre-season friendly in Thailand against the Singha All Stars XI, the kick-off to a Far East tour that also takes in Malaysia and Indonesia.

Then he will take the Blues to America for the International Champions Cup tournament which features two of Mourinho’s former clubs, Real Madrid and Inter Milan, as well as Everton, Juventus, AC Milan, Valencia and LA Galaxy.

Much is expected of Mourinho, who won six trophies in just three seasons during his first spell at Chelsea between 2004-07.

PHOTO: Big Brother Africa Housemates Engage In Kissing Galore

Barely few days into Africa’s top reality show, Big brother Africa Season 8, The Chase housemates are already getting cozy kissing one other and playing funny.

The first kiss of the season has been recorded in the Rubies House. Is this a trick to win more votes or is it for real?

A casual game of spin the bottle in the garden resulted in Ghana’s Selly reaching over to Angola’s Biguesas for a passionate kiss much to the amusement and applause of her fellow housemates. This was in between the housemates’ first nominations session in the game.

South Africa’s Koketso could not match up to Selly’s antics when it was her turn to kiss Zambia’s Sulu. Koketso simply hugged the dreadlocked Zambian and gave him a perk on the cheek.

However, it seemed to be Sulu’s lucky day as the green bottle pointed to Selly to give him a warm smooch, almost to make up for Koketso’s shortcomings.

After Koketso’s ‘cheating’, one housemate was heard suggesting that; “from now on it’s either we French kiss or we stop playing the game.” From then on, it was kissing galore on the lips.

Our eyes are wide open as we wait in anticipation of what these kisses will turn into.

Just when the housemates were starting to get acquainted, with some even starting to like each other in a suspicious way, Nigeria’s Beverley was the first to nominate Housemates to be evicted.

The rest of the Housemates were left in deep thought about their own nominations. Others, like Bassey, carried on doing their own thing and tried not to think a lot about what would be going down in the Diary Room.

While most Chasers were not entirely confident with their nominations, the likes of Pokello and LK4 kept their choices simple and their reasons clear, showing that they’ve given a lot of thought to the Nomination Session.

The rest of Housemates’ reasons were rather personal and unacceptable to Biggie, in which case Biggie asked them to give alternative and relevant reasoning.

All Housemates, however, insisted that none of the nominations were ‘personal’.

The Grandfather Who Sells Human Head For N1000 Arrested (Photo)

The Lagos State Police Command has arrested a grandfather, Mr. Segun Kayode, for allegedly exhuming and selling human parts.
According to the police, the suspect, who works at a cemetery in Epe area of the state, was arrested with a human skull.
Police sources said the suspect sold human parts for a living, adding that he had become notorious in the area for selling human parts.
It was learnt that the suspect was arrested following a report by a resident who saw him displaying a skull for sale.
The grandfather, who could not give his exact age, said he started selling human parts because he was poor and jobless.
He said, “I live at 2,Tungbehin Street, Epe. I have two children and I am a grandfather. I have always been poor all my life because I had no formal or informal education. I used to be a fisherman but when there were no longer fishes in rivers in my area, I became a gardener at Epe Local Government Secretariat
“About four years ago, the LG said they no longer needed my services so I started trimming grass at a cemetery in the area.”
The suspect, who did not deny the allegations, said there was nothing wrong in selling dead people’s parts since the dead never used them.
He said one day, while he was clearing weeds in the cemetery, he noticed a human skull which had been dug up.
He said, “Most times, when a corpse is not buried with a coffin, the possibility of the corpse resurfacing is very high. So, what workers at the cemetery do is to gather some of the corpses and burn them instead of burying them again.

“I realised that this was not a smart thing to do since it would be better to make money from it. The families of these dead people never care about them once they are buried and weeds had taken over the cemetery.”
The suspect said he sold only two corpses while he had on numerous occasions given them out for free.
He said, “I have sold only two human heads. I sold the first one for N1, 000 while I sold the second one for N1, 500. Last week, a resident approached me saying an herbalist needed the head so I got a decomposed head, for him, washed it and put it on a fence to dry.
“A resident saw me and raised the alarm and that was how I was arrested.”
PUNCH Metro had reported last week that five people, including an herbalist, were arrested for selling human parts.
A police source told one of our correspondents that the trend was common in areas where public cemeteries were situated.
“Areas which are not located in the metropolis and have cemeteries have become the hideout for cartels which specialise in sale of human parts. We (police) have reason to believe that some of these human parts dealers also engage in ritual killing,” he said.
The source added that efforts were going on to arrest other human parts sellers in the area.
When contacted on the telephone, the spokesperson for the state police command, Ngozi Braide, confirmed Kayode’s arrest. She said he had been transferred to State Criminal Investigation Department, Yaba.

One man and his tiger! Buddhist cuddles up to deadly big cat...

When temperatures reaching a stifling 37 degrees, even these well-adapted tigers need to find a way of escaping the heat.




Many were brought to the reserve as cubs and have grown up around humans. But even so these pictures show just how remarkably close these fearsome creatures can get to their keepers.

Cuddling up: In this remarkable photograph, an adult tiger and a Buddhist monk embrace in a seemingly mutual display of affectionAdd caption

Feeding time: These beautiful creatures remain docile enough to be fed from the hands of a monk

An adult tiger is, at first, sprawled out on the ground sunbathing, but then cuddles up close to one of his fellow residents in the shade.

Elsewhere, a young tiger was spotted happily playing around in a pool of water with a fascinating new toy. 

Along with soaring temperatures, the humidity in Thailand can reach an exhausting 90 per cent in the summer months.

Founded in 1994, the Tiger Temple has attracted criticism from some wildlife groups who claim it is an illegal breeding facility and that the tigers are not sufficiently cared for. 

The first cub arrived in 1999 after her mother was killed by poachers nearby.
She died, but others have since arrived and the tiger population has gradually grown. The centre has become a tourist attraction where visitors can pay a fee to have their picture taken alongside the animals.

The organistion insists that it is a legitimate conservation centre, that the animals are well-cared for and that the aim is to release them back into the wild in the future.

Nigeria JCI president & deputy die in fatal auto crash

The national president of the Nigerian chapter of Junior Chamber International, Oyebanjo Okunuga (pictured left) and his deputy, Agaptus Nnadiekwe (pictured right), died on Sunday May 26th in a fatal auto accident while returning to Lagos after attending a collegiate conference at Federal University of Technology Akure, Ondo state.

The vehicle they were traveling in crashed, killing Oyebanjo and Agaptus, while the executive secretary survived. He's currently receiving treatment at Obafemi Awolowo University Teaching Hospital.

Apart from being Nigeria JCI president, Oyebanjo was the CEO of Kubacle Clothing, - a clothing company and also CEO of Business Craft Solution, - an entrepreneurship development organization He was 32 years old. May their souls rest in peace...amen.

AMAZING: Twin Sisters Give Birth In The Same Hospital On The Same Day (Photos)

 The twin sisters pictured above recently discovered they’re pregnant on the same day.

They broke their pregnancy news to their mother on the same day and coincidentally delivered their babies on the same day.

Twin #1, Tashina Ackley gave birth to a baby daughter while Twin #2, Erica gave birth to a son.

The Eastport Maine-based twin sisters delivered their babies at Down East Community Hospital in Machias, Maine.

This is the first set of babies for the identical twin sisters.

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SHOCKING PHOTOS: 19-Year-Old Girl Jumps From Third Floor Window After Finding Out Her Boyfriend Is Married

A Chinese teenager who jumped from a third-floor window in a suicide bid after learning that her boyfriend is married was saved by a giant pillow.

The 19-year-old Chinese woman threatened to launch herself from the building after discovering her partner had a wife and a ten year old child.
She clambered out onto a metal pole and threatened to jump.

Despite attempts to talk her down from the ledge in an apartment block in Hangzhou, capital of eastern China's Zhejiang Province, she thew herself from the block.

But meanwhile firefighters had set up a massive air cushion below and the woman landed safely, escaping uninjured.

It is unclear whether the woman has intended to reach the pillow or if she had launched a genuine attempt on her life.

The air cushion measures roughly 6 metres by 7.5 metres and 2.75 metres high, and is capable of absorbing the shock of a body falling from 10 floors.
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