My wife uses séx as bargaining tool’ - Taiwo

Mr. Taiwo Benson has urged an Ado-Ekiti Grade 1 Customary Court to dissolve his eight-year-old marriage with his wife, Maureen, because she used séx as a bargaining tool.  Benson also told the court that his wife was not only troublesome, she had also abandoned him and did not show love and care toward him, the News Agency of Nigeria reports. Benson told the court that the marriage produced two children, aged six and four years. He said, “My wife denies me séx on a regular basis. She only gives me séx whenever she wants to get something in return. “There have been countless occasions when I demanded séx from my wife, and she would just ignore me like I did not exist. “She uses séx as a bargaining tool. This has been the biggest issue in the marriage. Why will my wife be starving me of séx?” He said his wife was often quarrelsome, adding that they were always having problems in their marriage because of personality clashes. Benson said, “She is a very proud and stubborn woman. I am also a proud man, and both of us cannot be proud at the same time so this always caused problem between us because we are never on the same page.  “She does not show me any kind of love or affection. I am tired of this marriage and I implore this court to dissolve the marriage. The wife, who was present in court admitted starving her husband of séx but noted that she stopped having séx with him when she realised that he slept around. Maureen said, “I stopped having séx with him as soon as I knew he slept around. My husband runs a non-governmental organisation. So, he travels a lot. Whenever he gets back and I am packing his loads from his car, I always saw used condoms in his car. “Whenever I accused him of cheating on me, he would beat me and immediately he finished beating me, he would want to have séx with me. “When I refused to give him séx at that point, he would say that séx was the remedy to calm nerves down after a fight.” Maureen said Benson always wanted her to practise what they watched in pornographic movies. “My husband is a big fan of pornographic movies, and he derives pleasure and joy watching them. Whenever he watches it, he will always want us to practise what they do in the movie. “I am not a porno star; how am I supposed to do that? I was not raised in such background. As usual, my refusal results in beating, and he even goes as far as threatening me with a machete he keeps in our bedroom. “I cannot go on this way; please I want the dissolution of this marriage.” The counsel to the petitioner, Miss Okonny Hilda, pleaded with the court to adjourn the case in order to respond to the defendant’s counter claim. However, the lawyer to the respondent, Miss Agibulu Toyin, objected to the plea, saying the law guiding the court did not permit such. The President of the court, Mrs. Christiana Ajibabi, adjourned the case till July 19, for further hearing. Punch Nigeria