Relationships are good. The various Holy books
recommend marriage, and most men want to settle down with someone good.
However, if you are a woman and unable to find a man who consistently
enjoys your company, then there’s a problem. I’ve tried to categorize
some character traits commonly found in women which tend to keep the
prospective men at bay. If you fall into one or two of these categories,
sister, it just might be time to make a change.
Being judgemental and generalizing:
A few bad experiences don’t mean all men are the same. It shocks me to
hear women say all men are the same. Making such an assertion is not
only wrong, it affects your judgement of men and consequently affects
how you relate to them. A woman who generalizes is usually quick to read
the wrong meanings into men’s actions, and usually reacts irrationally
before even considering their actions. No man will stick around too long
if he’s always feeling attacked and misunderstood.
Easy catch: I can bet that a man will avoid you if he knows you’ve slept with
every available man on your street or a sizeable number of men in your
school. No man wants to settle for the chaff when the substance has been
lost. However, if he isn’t aware, you may wish to keep the details to
yourself and not flaunt it. It makes a man insecure to know that he is
dating an ‘easy catch’ and might send him on his merry way sooner than
either of you thought.
Fault finder: This type of woman
doesn’t see the good in anything or anyone. She hardly ever appreciates
anything. She complains about things she can either cope with or change.
No man needs a woman breathing down his neck about every single thing,
every single time. It’s either the movie is wrong, or the food isn’t
nice, or he snores, or…the list is endless. Bottom line, the man will
soon go where he’ll be appreciated.
Clinger: Being
over-possessive isn’t cute. Learn to give him a break. Men like to have
their solo time, hang out with friends and do ‘manly’ things. Your
following him around and keeping tabs on him won’t stop him from having
an affair if he wants to; you might even be giving him good reasons to
do it. Don’t make yourself his clutch bag. The more you insist on tagging along, the more likely it is that you’ll be tagged out.
Prim and Proper:
One thing this group fails to realize is that boys will always be boys.
When a woman keeps a particular thing at a particular spot and gets
upset when it is moved, that is a big issue with men who are often less
rigid.
No man wants to be around a woman who sweeps the floor
every second or has a particular space for a particular cup or spoon or a
particular hanger for a particular dress. Let go; live a little!
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